You’ve definitely heard these, and probably said them too
“Christians shouldn’t feel guilty. Jesus has taken it all.”
Again, this is wonderfully true. When we’ve confessed our sin, we are meant to know liberation from guilt.
However, we do need to confess our sin!
I recently was involved with a man who had been having an extra-marital affair for more than a year. He felt that his marriage was sexually disappointing and so he deserved to have sex outside of his marriage. He lived guilt free for over a year.
I really wish he had felt guilty. That particular Christian should have felt guilty. He was guilty! Until the point where he cracked and felt guilt and then confessed his sin, he could have no assurance that Jesus had paid for his sin. He was very much in the category of 1 Corinthians 6 v 9:
“Do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God?”
“Christians shouldn’t feel guilty” is a good sound bite for the repentant Christian, but a terrible one for the person who remains in their guilt and is unrepentant.
3. “God hates the sin but loves the sinner.”